Tuesday, February 19, 2013

I have been extremely selfish

Our case has gone painfully slow. It is no secret that it has been weighing very heavily on our hearts. Living life in limbo not sure when to schedule appts or play dates or whether to RSVP for events is hard enough, but knowing there are three children on the other side of the world who are just as eager to start their new lives and have a family (because they say so in their heart-wrenching letters to us) makes it torture. We are fortunate to get many updates on our kids but hearing of night terrors, ear infections, bronchitis, etc. without a mom to take care of them is almost unbearable. The staff is wonderful but it isn't a family. The nannies take good care of them but they aren't "mom". Knowing that every day airlines are charging more and more for the same flights because we are nearing peak travel time makes us cringe with every day of no news. Our flights will already cost more than $1000 more than they would have 2-3 weeks ago. That money feels so wasted. money that could have been spent on so many other things. Knowing we expected them home by Christmas, that they still have unreceived Santa gifts, and now they won't even be home for Easter makes it sooo tough. They asked us if they could play soccer on a TEAM (the homeschool ms/hs team our kids play for) in a letter. Of course I said yes because we never expected that they would not be home by now. Soccer began yesterday without them....without even an idea when they may be home. All of the winter clothes I have for them can now be packed away because they won't be home for cold weather. The clothes will be passed down and still worn, but it is the symbolism of it that stings. My sister is due to have my 4th nephew in May. Never did we ever think the kids wouldn't be home by then or worse that we may be in Ethiopia when she delivers.

Now that I have whined and whined I have to say why I have been so selfish. One of the reasons our case has been so delayed is because officials have been working hard investigating agencies and orphanages instead of moving current cases through. This is what I have prayed years for. yes, orphanages get relicensed every year but this is different. they seem to be doing something about the bad agencies this time. There is so much corruption which is widespread among Ethiopian adoptions. I cannot even recommend an Ethiopian adoption right now unless the adoptive parents first conduct a third party investigation of the situation before proceeding.....which most agencies will not allow. Children are being trafficked and well meaning parents are fueling the fire by continuing to flock to these unethical agencies. It won't stop until they are shut down. And they need to be. Soon. Not every agency is unethical, but unfortunately there are few that aren't. Any time money is involved, a good intending ministry can allow sin to creep in.....in any country and any ministry. So when I prayed for reform in Ethiopian adoptions and more thorough investigations, the corrupt being caught and shut down, and all those ugly things, I need to praise God for answered prayers even if it means our case takes longer. We are one family, one case. There are hundreds or more families out there having to look at their children and, if speaking honestly, tell them they were never legally adoptable or that they never needed to leave their birth family or country and should have been raised by birth relatives. Or the worst of all, that their families were tricked into placing them in adoption or they were paid for their children.. These children deserve justice. If that means my case takes a few weeks longer, I am more than willing to wait!

Wednesday, February 06, 2013

Good news to come...maybe?

Found out today that MOWCYA has mostly caught up on January cases (ours was Jan 15) but hasn't had time to let agencies know whose are ready and whose aren't do to working so hard on the cases themselves. We should hear something tomorrow one way or another.

Here are our 3 sweeties! Our boy has purple shoes on. Haha he joins another Cash boy who was wearing pink or purples shoes in every picture we got of him when he was in Ethiopia. Haha I love how they are all 3 holding on to each other. They are so close.

Sunday, February 03, 2013

The sound of crickets.....

Still nothing. The quiet of waiting for your children is a terrible quietness. We are hopeful, however, to hear something this week because the MOWCYA officials have returned to Addis from their investigations and recertifications of agencies and orphanages and anticipate catching up quickly. It has been 19 days since our MOWCYA date when our approval letter was supposed to be ready and court date issued, which means 4 days since we should have had our court date in Ethiopia. We would be back home right now waiting for news to travel back to bring them home. Then of course I remember God's timing, and only His timing, is perfect.

Meanwhile, we are having one heck of a snowy and icy winter! As long as we don't loose power or have to drive we love it! Here are some quick shots taken around our house and neighborhood. You can see Barlow loves it and can't wait for us to get out of the van to play!